~I have set before you an open door, which no one is able to shut.--Revelation 3:8~

This Month's Thoughts for:

Send me your light and your faithful care, let them lead me; let them bring me to your holy mountain, to the place where you dwell.

Psalm 43:3 NIV

Body-Now that all of the holiday celebrations are nearly over, it's time to look at taking care of ourselves. If you haven't already been, you need to find the right balance in life so that you can have time for exercise and to strengthen yourself.

Mind-Whether you're a student or a graduate, it's never too late to learn something new. Keep your eyes and ears open so that you may find guidance through God's word.

Spirit-Take time each day to pray and talk to God. He hears you.

Wednesday, January 30, 2008

An Interview with Author Tanya White!

I'm happy to have had the opportunity to interview Tanya White, author of How to Deal with a Difficult Woman. Tanya is the Communications Director for the Women’s Evangelical Network (W.E.N.) W.E.N. is a non-profit international organization that equips women to grow in their ministry by providing guidance through spiritual and intellectual development in their walk with Christ. Tanya also participates in other professional business organizations throughout her community. She is also a licensed minister.

Having many great influences and mentors such as her late parents, Joe and Erma White, Tanya attributes her birth as an author/writer to her life coach Valorie Burton who taught her to embrace vulnerability and to work on healing hurts of the past.

Tanya has a diverse educational background. She holds a Bachelor of Science in Business Management-Human Resource concentration, Master of Arts Teaching-Learning and Behavior Disorders, Master of Science in Human Resource Training & Development. Some of Tanya’s life changing keynotes and interactive workshops address such relationship issues as Breaking The Happily Unhappy Cycle, Reject Rejection, Calmly Confronting Conflict and The Art Of Asking For What You Really Want. For full listing of keynotes and interactive workshops, please visit www.tanyawhite.com.

Bio information taken from www.tanyawhite.com.

And now, the interview:

1.What do you think are the most important skills for a woman to acquire? Self love, dedication and collaboration.

2. In what ways can women help one another overcome adversity? Be patient, compassionate, mentally put yourself in their predicament so that you can be more sensitive, tolerant, truthful and understanding.

3. In what ways do you see women impeding the progress of other women? Being jealous of one another. Jealousy provokes a domino affect other negative behaviors such as backbiting, sabotaging endeavors, malicious criticism, belittling, challenging your authority and professional knowledge, creating strife and chaos.

4. What has been your most important achievement as a woman? I have 3 important achievements-Discovering who I truly am despite others expectations or standards, loving the woman I am and am evolving into and pursing my purpose with passion.

5. Other than the obvious, what do you see as the biggest difference between men and women? Generally men are extremely focused on the end result of things. They have tunnel vision for executing a plan and usually the significance of the little things. Women are the complete opposite. We enjoy focusing in on the small details and are slower about getting to the end result. But men and women can find that happy medium of creating a “win-win” situation when both parties are willing to be patient with one another and adapt to the different personalities.

6. Who are your role models and why? Joe and Erma White, my late parents. My dad empowered his children before I even understood what empowerment was. My dad would always, “Listen to what I teach you because you have to learn to function when I am not here.” My siblings and I never wanted to hear him say that because we thought that he would be with us forever. But when he died in 1996, I understood exactly what he meant and appreciated his wisdom. My mother taught me and my sister what it truly meant to be a lady and carry ourselves with grace and genuine love for all people. Although growing up I thought they were strict and rebelled sometimes, there is nothing more that I cherish more than their wisdom and commitment to family. The strong foundation that I received from my parents during their short time on earth has had an everlasting affect on the way I live today.

7. What advice would you give to every young woman? First, I would encourage every young woman to invest the time to discover and love who they truly are. The more you know and love yourself the higher your self confidence and self esteem becomes. People will value you when you value yourself. Secondly, find out what your purpose is and pursue it daily with passion. Lastly, cherish the gift of goodbye. Do not hold on to dead situations or relationships because you are afraid of the unknown. When you do all these things you will live your life to the very fullest without shame or apology.

Be sure to visit Tanya's websites for more information about her book, How to Deal with a Difficult Woman!


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Healthy Relationships: Where do you fit in?

Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him.

James 1:12 New International Version

In relationships, we are all put to the test in one way or another. Whether we are being taught a lesson in trusting others or in learning to love selflessly, we must always be on the lookout for signs that the enemy is lurking nearby. Sometimes what we think might be one of God's tests for us is actually our own ego struggling to overpower His influence in our lives.

If you are fighting constantly over the same issues with your significant other, take a step back and ask yourself, "What would God want me to do here?" It could be that He wants you to take enough pride in yourself to stand up for your right to be respected in the relationship. Maybe you need to step up and express your dissatisfaction with the way you are being treated in order to make your loved one understand what you need. Or maybe you are with someone who is treating you unfairly and God wants you to guard your heart.

If your usual tendency is to run away from a relationship when you aren't 100% satisfied with the other person's behavior, this could be an indicator that you aren't being realistic in your expectations. No one is perfect and learning to love one another's flaws as well as one's gifts is part of a healthy relationship.

A great resource for you to check out if you are having difficulty sustaining relationships is "Safe People" by Townsend and Cloud. I am currently going through a Bible Study with some ladies and we are using this book as our guide. There is alot of great information about boundaries and how to identify traits in others who may be unsafe for us. If you get a chance, check this one out.

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