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This Month's Thoughts for:

Send me your light and your faithful care, let them lead me; let them bring me to your holy mountain, to the place where you dwell.

Psalm 43:3 NIV

Body-Now that all of the holiday celebrations are nearly over, it's time to look at taking care of ourselves. If you haven't already been, you need to find the right balance in life so that you can have time for exercise and to strengthen yourself.

Mind-Whether you're a student or a graduate, it's never too late to learn something new. Keep your eyes and ears open so that you may find guidance through God's word.

Spirit-Take time each day to pray and talk to God. He hears you.

Saturday, March 7, 2009

Sending the right message

It is now, more than ever so important that we send the right message to our young women. Especially after all of the reports that pop-star Rihanna was going to reconcile with her boyfriend, pop-star Chris Brown after being severly beaten by him during an argument between the two of them. When our young women see this type of thing, it makes them think that it is okay for a man to beat on a woman. Because the two individuals involved are so high-profile, it sends a very dangerous message out not only to our young women, but to our young men. 2 Higher Ground wants to make sure that we are doing everything we can to let young women know that abuse is not okay. An apology does not equal undying love and commitment.

Keep these statistics in mind. According to the National Network to End Domestic Violence (NNEDV) approximately 1,200 women a year - three every day - die in the United States as a result of domestic violence. One-quarter of high school girls have been the victims of physical abuse, and approximately 15.5 million children are exposed to domestic violence every year. According to experts, young children who have witnessed violence, or been victims of violent acts, are at even greater risk of committing violence in their own relationships.

In my day job, I work with kids and I often listen to their conversations to see what they are thinking about current events. Luckily, I haven't heard many of them talking about the Chris Brown/Rihanna situation. Those who have been talking about it seem to have the right ideas about what should happen. But what about those conversations we don't hear? Are our children understanding the things they hear on the news? How can we make sure that they know right from wrong when we have so much out there influencing their minds? For me, I admit that I tell my daughter at every turn that it is not okay to let anyone beat on you for any reason. I tell her that a man who would beat on a woman is no man at all. I just hope that I'm getting through.

What else can we do to ensure that our young women know how they should be treated in a loving, caring relationship? How else can we make sure they are getting the right messages? Weigh-in here. We'd love to hear your thoughts!

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1 comment:

L. Diane Wolfe said...

I was shocked to see so many claiming she provoked him and had it coming!!! And many of these were women, too.
Unfortunately the news just reports negative - they don't show all the wonderful relationships that function properly.
I think more high-profile people (ones who still maintain their morals & values) need to speak out and declare what is right!

L. Diane Wolfe

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Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him.

James 1:12 New International Version

In relationships, we are all put to the test in one way or another. Whether we are being taught a lesson in trusting others or in learning to love selflessly, we must always be on the lookout for signs that the enemy is lurking nearby. Sometimes what we think might be one of God's tests for us is actually our own ego struggling to overpower His influence in our lives.

If you are fighting constantly over the same issues with your significant other, take a step back and ask yourself, "What would God want me to do here?" It could be that He wants you to take enough pride in yourself to stand up for your right to be respected in the relationship. Maybe you need to step up and express your dissatisfaction with the way you are being treated in order to make your loved one understand what you need. Or maybe you are with someone who is treating you unfairly and God wants you to guard your heart.

If your usual tendency is to run away from a relationship when you aren't 100% satisfied with the other person's behavior, this could be an indicator that you aren't being realistic in your expectations. No one is perfect and learning to love one another's flaws as well as one's gifts is part of a healthy relationship.

A great resource for you to check out if you are having difficulty sustaining relationships is "Safe People" by Townsend and Cloud. I am currently going through a Bible Study with some ladies and we are using this book as our guide. There is alot of great information about boundaries and how to identify traits in others who may be unsafe for us. If you get a chance, check this one out.

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