~I have set before you an open door, which no one is able to shut.--Revelation 3:8~

This Month's Thoughts for:

Send me your light and your faithful care, let them lead me; let them bring me to your holy mountain, to the place where you dwell.

Psalm 43:3 NIV

Body-Now that all of the holiday celebrations are nearly over, it's time to look at taking care of ourselves. If you haven't already been, you need to find the right balance in life so that you can have time for exercise and to strengthen yourself.

Mind-Whether you're a student or a graduate, it's never too late to learn something new. Keep your eyes and ears open so that you may find guidance through God's word.

Spirit-Take time each day to pray and talk to God. He hears you.

Wednesday, January 23, 2008

Has this ever happened to you?

The topic of the hour is whether or not women are being treated fairly by courts in terms of divorce and custody issues. What I'm wondering is whether or not there are other women out there who have gone through or who are currently going through a divorce where the ex-husband is an emotionally or psychologically abusive man who seems to be able to find loopholes in every court decision? This is more of a call for your thoughts and suggestions than an informational post.

I ask because my sister is going through a particularly nasty divorce and she is at wit's end trying to figure out her next move. It seems as though the court is ruling against her mainly because she is not working outside the home. She is getting little cooperation from the very institutions that are supposed to be based on fairness and protecting the rights of the innocent. In fact, they are telling her that unless the man physically harms her, she can't do anything to keep him away from her. So, she endures phone calls and threats from this young man and can't do anything to stop them aside from changing her phone number. She is worried that he will do something to harm her and their son, but she has no recourse until he actually does. This is exactly the kind of thinking that gets women killed and I don't want her and my young nephew to become part of that statistic.

How can we work together to make the courts see that the best way to deal with these situations is to err on the side of caution? How can we make them be more proactive? If there are women out there who have ideas on how to combat this type of reactive thinking on the part of the courts, I'd love to hear them. Please send your thoughts to me here.

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Healthy Relationships: Where do you fit in?

Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him.

James 1:12 New International Version

In relationships, we are all put to the test in one way or another. Whether we are being taught a lesson in trusting others or in learning to love selflessly, we must always be on the lookout for signs that the enemy is lurking nearby. Sometimes what we think might be one of God's tests for us is actually our own ego struggling to overpower His influence in our lives.

If you are fighting constantly over the same issues with your significant other, take a step back and ask yourself, "What would God want me to do here?" It could be that He wants you to take enough pride in yourself to stand up for your right to be respected in the relationship. Maybe you need to step up and express your dissatisfaction with the way you are being treated in order to make your loved one understand what you need. Or maybe you are with someone who is treating you unfairly and God wants you to guard your heart.

If your usual tendency is to run away from a relationship when you aren't 100% satisfied with the other person's behavior, this could be an indicator that you aren't being realistic in your expectations. No one is perfect and learning to love one another's flaws as well as one's gifts is part of a healthy relationship.

A great resource for you to check out if you are having difficulty sustaining relationships is "Safe People" by Townsend and Cloud. I am currently going through a Bible Study with some ladies and we are using this book as our guide. There is alot of great information about boundaries and how to identify traits in others who may be unsafe for us. If you get a chance, check this one out.

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